This might be one of the funniest book titles I’ve ever run into:
Kay Wills Wyma’s I’m Happy for You (Sort of…Not Really) is one of the best nonfiction books I’ve read this year. It’s also pretty funny, as you’d expect with a title like that! But, it’s also truthful…honest…and open about a subject that affects all of us, subtly or not-so-subtly, in today’s “likes” and “thumbs up” social media-driven world.
Have you guessed what this book is about?
Comparison: the examination of what others are, do, or have as compared to what I think I am, do, or have; and the thoughts or emotions that result.
Despite the fact that Scripture instructs us not to compare ourselves with others (consider the elder brother of the prodigal son; the disciples, on discussing who was the greatest; the Pharisee who told God he was glad he was not like that “sinner” on the other side of the street), we often do. And it begins with a single thought or observation, that can then pick up speed until the happy person we were just a few moments ago is suddenly sad, dissatisfied, or embarrassed.
And comparison can happen over anything! Salary. Children (or lack thereof). Our homes or lawns or cars. Especially, for women in our day and age, it can be weight, appearance, beauty. Things we were personally satisfied with can suddenly seem to be not enough. This is SO not fun.
Author Kay Wills Wyma has put a lot of thought and observation into this subject. Her book discusses the root of comparison and its resulting dissatisfaction, and offers helpful ideas for changing the way we think and react when comparison rears its ugly head. What if…instead of comparing ourselves with others, we can respond with contentment about ourselves and our lives? In I’m Happy for You (Sort of…Not Really), Wyma shares not only her own (often hilarious) experiences but also stories of many other women, who’ve battled comparison in its many forms. This book’s chapters talk through:
- Three simple words that can stop comparison it its tracks
- Looking beyond the present moment to the big picture
- Pressure, performance and social media
- What “real beauty” truly is
- Relationship and friendship
- and so much more!
I know, I know…I just couldn’t resist!
I’m not going to compare this book to others I have read. I admit, freely, that I am definitely not a big reader of nonfiction books. Often, I’ll make it halfway or partially through and my attention goes somewhere else, despite how helpful it might be. (A novel, however, is a different story.)
However, I’m Happy for You (Sort of…Not Really) affected me in a very different manner! Perhaps because it is story-driven, it was highly readable for me. Kay Wills Wyma’s manner is so candid and open. I almost felt, as I was reading this book, that I was just sitting and engaging with a trusted friend who had incredibly helpful teaching to share with me. I loved the real life stories she included in her book, as well as the quotes from famous personalities of all stripes. So unlike my frequent yet uncompleted forays into nonfiction books, I read huge chunks of it nearly every time I sat down to read it.
Perhaps most importantly, there is enormously beneficial and valuable information in this. Yes, of course I want to be a contented person! I want to raise my son to be thankful and contented as well, and to be armed with wisdom and understanding as he navigates the social media-driven world he’s growing up in. And Wyma’s book is full of information to help us both with the goal of contentment and avoiding comparison.
I’m happy to recommend this book to you. It’s a delightful and fully relevant book!
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